Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Advice needed

when her man is feeling down and out and unsure of himself and his capacities, how can a woman best support him and not get in his way at the same time?

i need advise from all good men out there, this time. (i've already had enough advise from women.)

help me, please!

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Come What May
by Air Supply


When she looks at me
I know the girl sees things
Nobody else can see

All of the secret fears inside
And all the craziness I hide
She looks into my soul
And reads me like nobody can

And she doesnt judge the man
She just takes me as I am

(chorus)
Come what may, she believes
And that faith is something
Ive never known before
Come what may, she loves me
And that love has helped me open a door
Making me love myself a little more

When I turn away
She knows those are the times
Theres nothing she can say

Nothing that anyone can do
And so she lets me live it through
And when Im in my darkest hour of uncertainty
She just simply lets me be
And goes right on loving me

(chorus)
And when it seems my dreams
Have all slipped through my fingers
When they just cant be found
I turn around and there they are
Shining in her eyes
(repeat chorus)

Anonymous said...

I came across this really good article on the net the other day. It touches on some common misunderstandings that women have about how a man thinks. You're doing fine though.

http://www.committment.com/estern.html

The main thing any woman needs to understand about men is that our whole culture, drives, sense of self-worth and respect from our fellow men is based on thinking of ourselves as competent and succesful at everything. Its a guy thing, like who is the top monkey in the troop and gets all the women. Think of all the examples. Who can drink the most beer? Who can eat the hottest curry?

This is the kind of thinking we drift into when we're not concentrating on caring. It is then down to the women to make us relaxed and happy and not so competitive.

The thing that cuts a guy up the most is when he thinks that his wife/girlfriend thinks he is incompetent or a failure at something. This is why the stuff in the article on the woman saying please and thank you and 'I really appreciate that' is so important.

A man likes to solve any problems on his own, before asking others, so he feels competent. So stay quiet and let him see his friends. If your man needs educating in how women think, ask him to read stuff as a favor to you.

Good luck.

Rich

Nine Lives said...

Thank you, Rich!