Ms.

if a man can just be called plain "Mr.", why does it appear important that a woman should either be a "Miss" or a "Mrs."?

would her being single or married have anything to do with her capacity to hold a job, perform work well, be credit worthy, acknowledged as a citizen?

here is the story of "Ms."

Of Gardens and Food, etc.

i went to the Mall to pay my cellphone bill but i went home lugging four pots of herb plants with me-- two pots of basil, one pot of oregano, and one pot of ginseng.

there was a garden fair at the Mall and i finally gave in to my lifelong dream of starting a garden of my own, with these herbs for a start.

now that i have more time for my self and my life is my own again, i want to start a garden and finally learn how to cook this year. : )

what better way to build two nests in one tree (i hate "two birds with one stone"--it is too cruel and violent!) than start with herbs i can tend and nurture, and herbs i can use for learning how to cook different types of pasta dishes!

what about the ginseng?

i know there are jokes about it for improving one's sex life... heehee... but ginseng is also good for hair growth, you know.

anyway, for me, it will be for its healing and regenerative properties.

so many years ago, i attended this week-long basic ESP seminar, and on the last night of the session which was highlighted with a spoon-bending exercise, i was one of the few five people who were able to do so with our minds. and we all shared a common experience, the feeling of a rush of heat from the top of our heads, down our neck and shoulders and arms... which we then used to "caress" the spoon into bending with just a tap or two...

anyway, the whole point of the exercise was not really to bend spoons with one's mind, the trainer informed us, but to find out whether we had the gift for healing. the rush of heat is one manifestation. and he encouraged us to use and develop our gift for good.

so that's what the ginseng is for.

the improved sex life would just be a fringe benefit. : )

shy dance

tentatively
you reach
for my hand again

while i
tentatively
only barely
touch your fingertips

acknowledging
your need
yet also
protecting
my fears

of dancing
a dance
where partners
never stay for long
even before
the music
stops.

Free

i received a surprise visit from the ex today, the surprise mostly coming from the fact that he finally dared to enter the house in my presence. he usually just stops by the gate and relays whatever messages he has for me through the maid.

today, though, to his credit, he was man enough to face me, and hand me a set of papers from The Court himself, my copy of The Court's decision on our Petition for the Declaration of Nullity of Marriage:

...WHEREFORE, Premises Considered, based on the foregoing citations and/or jurisprudence and under the "totality rule" this Court is safe to decree that the marriage between the plaintiff and the defendant on 16 May 1992 is null and void ab initio and the parties are restored to their former civil status.

Let copies of this Decision be furnished the Office of the Local Civil Registrar of Bacolod City, Negros Occidental, the Office of the Solicitor General, Manila, the Office of the City Prosecutor, Bacolod City, the parties and counsel for their guidance.

SO ORDERED.

Bacolod City, Philippines, 17 May 2005.

*****

thirteen years to the very day.

Milk and Honey Cleopatra

i couldn't resist it. i had my special treat for my self all planned for the day; i've been dreaming about it for weeks since i submitted my official resignation letter last january, but when it came to making it real at last, i couldn't resist one more extra treat-- a milk and honey full body scrub and body wrap!!!

it wrecked my budget but what the heck, i deserve it after 4 years of slaving, serving other people's needs!

when i checked into the spa, this ad for their new service caught my eye. and all i was thinking of was, hmmmm.... i wonder how Cleopatra felt?

now i have an idea. heehee.

i left the spa at 7pm last night, skin all so soft and rosy, smelling of lavender, milk and honey, me feeling languid and sexy and beautiful... and so moist and so in the mood.... : D

and Cleopatra did it every day, didn't she?